I feel pretty sad about some of my mothering as a single mom. Even though I did the best I knew how to do at the time…the best I had the strength to do…it simply was not good enough! There are lots of regrets. I don’t want that for you (regrets). That’s why I am a Mom’s coach. I hope to encourage you to higher ground…hoping you can learn from my mistakes. Things I can’t change. Things my kids don’t forget. Things I can’t forget.

A very wise person once told me: “You can’t apologize forever for the past. You can’t stay in that box of regret.” And, “It might NEVER be OK.” (But for God’s intervention and healing, that is.)

Maybe someone hears what they want to hear/what they expect to hear…rather than what you are actually saying. They may be listening with ears from past hurts. I am learning that for me, forgiveness can also be accepting the fact that sometimes those you love the most simply cannot move on past the PAST. Their “reality” is their “reality”. And nothing you say or do will change that. They may have you in a type of “time warp”. Seeing you as you used to be rather than how you are now. Only God can help them see past their hurt…past their loss.

God has forgiven you, dear Mama. Our God lives in the NOW. God IS. Sometimes you just have to move forward, anyway…because the sad truth is that sometimes those you love simply are not ready to forgive. They may just be sitting there in their hurt. Unable to move away from it because it is such a familiar place to be. Their hurt defines who they are.

Sometimes those you love can’t/won’t move on to a new NOW.

God is in your NOW. He sees. He understands. He knows your pain. He knows your regrets. He knows the sadness you feel as you think of what could have been and now never can be. Are you ready yet to leave that PAST in GOD’S capable hands and trust Him to work as only He can do?

What will you do in your NOW? Your TODAY? to move past your regrets and to thank GOD for being your comfort and guide in the journey of your NOW? I’d love for you to post your response on the blog. It would be an encouragement to me and to others! We are, after all, in this Mom journey together!!! 🙂