”Picture respectful, responsible, obedient children who entertain themselves without television or video games, do their own homework, and have impeccable manners. A pie-in-the-sky fantasy? Not so, says family psychologist and bestselling author John Rosemond.”
“In the 1960s, American parents stopped listening to their elders when it came to child rearing and began listening instead to professional experts. Since then, raising children has become fraught with anxiety, stress, and frustration. The solution, says John, lies in raising children according to biblical principles, the same principles that guided parents successfully for hundreds of years. They worked then, and they still work now!”
Don’t be fooled!
Self-respect and self esteem are not at all the same thing. They are opposites.
Self-respect
When we treat others with respect, we get what we give.
We respect ourselves as a result of treating others with respect and courtesy. Self-respect bubbles up from a generous heart towards others. The self-respecting person is that way no matter what their status, salary, or possessions, they remain steady, not depending on anything outside themselves for feelings of value or worth.
Self-esteem
Getting and not giving is the focus. It is a feeling that comes from being praised for “participation”, and receiving awards for “participation.” Self-esteem comes as a result of praise. The more self-esteem has, the more respect for others diminishes.
There is a craving for attention, recognition, status, things, and dominance…a type of slavery to ones own selfishness. Being unfulfilled and always wanting and need “more” stuff or recognition! And their own way! They are never satisfied with their lives. A lack of contentment.
“A proud man seldom is a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves.” – Henry Ward Beecher
Parenting By the Book
Kids do better with known boundaries. And one boundary says John Rosemond is that parents are not to be their kids best friends, but to actually function as parents. As the authority. As the decision maker. And he says it is even OK to say, “Because I said so.” In fact, he even has a radio program by that name. It is refreshing book full of wisdom that our grandparents used while training their children.
And the results are miraculous. Following God’s plan for families is nothing short of amazing; and actually borders on being miraculous in its results.
Six week book chat coming soon…using John Rosemond’s book as our guide. The next newsletter will have the specifics of how you can be part of the new movement…Parenting By the Book!!!!
“In this book you’ll find practical, Bible-based advice that will help you be the parent you want to be, with children who will be, as the Bible promises, “a delight to your soul” (Prov. 29:17).”
